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I'm going to write this post and not delete it. I've been doing that lately. I type away and once it is written feel like that is enough...the typing bit! The getting it out of my head! I feel like there is no point in posting all my thoughts and nonsense of everyday moments. When it comes to home life I don't write or post for anyone but me. Infact I often feel uncomfortable talking about and exposing details of my life for the world to see. Memories, ideas, ironing, rodents..oh that's right I deleted those last two.

Looking back over old posts has prompted me to not be so quick with the delete button. I'd forgotten about many ordinary moments. It is nice to revisit them.

So without any further deleting here is my post for the day....

As a child I never had to make my bed. It was one house hold chore that my mother never cared about. We only did it once a week or so when we had to strip the linen and put on the fresh sheets. But it is so much nicer to sleep in a well made bed don't you think?

I went through a crazed mother phase where I would insist that the kids' beds be made on most days, even if it was done late in the afternoon. Of course it was me who would do all the making, I'm not a slave driver to a 4 and 5 year old.

But then they would jump on them, make a cubby house on them, stack all their toys on them...what is the point? I've decided to follow in my mother's footsteps. I only ask now if their friends are coming around.....or mine! And I know that their friends couldn't care less about the state of their beds. They are more interested in the toys! Mr A has a bit more pride in his room, but Miss M is shockingly messy.
I certainly don't make them everyday. Do you?  I feel like deleting, I feel like deleting. I'm going to stop now.

Comments

[lindsey clare]

i never had to make my bed as a kid either. i think with 4 kids to run around after, bedmaking was the last thing on my mum's mind! and too right, in my opinion :)

these days i am a fake-bed-maker - i just pull the blankets/quilt up and arrange the pillows on top (if i'm feeling the inclination!).

[Kajsa]

I delete a lot too. They don't make their beds because I do not always remember to make my own...

[monica]

I have to confess I'm a maker. But mainly because I've married to a compulsive tidy-upper who would, if he could, live in a zen-style house super tidy and with nothing on show. He doesn't even like quilts... (I KNOW!!!!...)

We have duvet so it's easy and takes two seconds... oh and I make the children to their own... horrible mother, I know.

[libby]

Aren't you glad you didnt delete?

[emma]

i'm a bed maker, have to make them every day. Even if the rest or the house is a pigsty, which it often is, if the beds are made, then I feel better.

[Claire]

No no! we never make our beds! Dreadful I know, and there is nothing I love more than a freshly made bed with clean sheets but there are too many other things to do. Don't delete these posts!

[cindy]

Thats funny, I do the exact same thing. About deleting posts I mean. I will pour my heart out, wake up in the middle of the night and go downstairs at 3 in the morning and delete a post. I'm serious. I start thinking I went all crazy and noone will read my blog again. I shouldn't do that as sometimes those "moments" are best. Anyway, I really enjoy your blog and have just been a lurker until now. As for the making the bed thing. I make mine right when I get up. As for my kids, I go in spurts, if the door is open and I see it and it looks awful, i have a hissy. Sometimes I just walk by and sigh. Pretty healthy I think ;)

[Hyena In Petticoats]

I NEVER make the bed. Except for when I put the fresh sheets on, like you. What a waste of bloody time! I'd much prefer to spend that ten minutes doing something else. This is also the reason why my house will never be in Home Beautiful - though if it ever is, I'll make sure the stylist makes the fucking bed. Ha.

Leah xxx

(stop deleting - your posts are always interesting.)

[shellbells]

I just get the kids to take their pillows off and put them back on when I have made the bed. I dont do it religiously but whenI have the time it gets done. the kids usually play in the playroom or on my bed so it gets made less frequently!! It's really only done for my nitpicky benefit!! Must let my kids have a break like you do yours!!! DONT DELETE!!!

[Zoe]

ummm, I just read this and had to go and take some photos...

[Miss Cinti]

Never made my bed as a kid, still don't. Sometimes my neatfreak partner makes his side while i'm trying to have a sleep in!

[Jhoanna]

Glad you didn't delete this post Tiel - I know exactly what you mean!

I do make up my bed everyday, first thing in the morning, only because I find that somehow it brings a sense of order and calmness to the rest of my day. But it's never made up perfectly - just as long as the doona covers up the bed and it ain't all lumpy, I'm happy :-)

The girls beds on the other hand are a totally different story - they hardly ever get made up (even when we change the linen) because I've learnt (as you have) that they never stay that way :-)

[soo]

I have to make my bed each morning, but when it comes to the kids I just tidy their covers a little because they are always making cubbies and jumping! Glad you didn't delete!

[lily boot]

eeeeek - yes, I'm a compulsive bed maker, hospital corner perfectionist, plump the pillows just the right way! I've been known to be late for work and school just to get the beds made and perfect. I cannot bear coming home to unmade beds and they make the rooms look hotter in summer - so neurotic I know! :-) And I'm with all the other writers - I love everyday life posts - its an opportunity to laugh, or commiserate or nod frantically - very comforting!

[Uschi]

When it comes to beds: NO!! On about 360days of the year!
Did I red the word "ironing": Meet with some neighbours or friends to do it together!!A nice chat with a highly valuable activity!!
Sure!!

[Uschi]

When it comes to beds: NO!! On about 360days of the year!
Did I red the word "ironing": Meet with some neighbours or friends to do it together!!A nice chat with a highly valuable activity!!
Sure!!

[Lauren]

In recent years I have become less bothered about making the bed every day. BUT I still don't like visitors to see our bed unmade. I am lenient with my kids too. I prefer to choose my battles and it's easy enough to shut their bedroom doors.

[Kikimiss]

I used to freak out about beds not being made but these days I'm a little less controlling (just a little!). No doubt I'll get back into that mode once my girls are older.

Like others have said, don't delete the "normal", that's what makes you so fun and besides, I get really jealous reading your ultra crafty posts :-)

PS: I've got a movie night with a girlfriend tomorrow night - '2 Days In Paris', bottle of pinot and Indian takeaway...fun, fun, fun.

[leslie]

ah, the bed making - never have, never will, not too worried about whether my future kids do either. i do admit, i love the look of the freshly made up bed when i change the sheets but everyday? too much work and so many better things to do : )

[katiecrackernuts]

Oh, you're funny. I'm a maker. My mum was a nurse and we had to do the beds with hospital corners - we being us, the kids. I still do. My sister doesn't. I make the kids make them, it's something (for me, I'm not judging those who don't make them) I feel is a sign of respect for their things and for the house we live in. To get up and make my bed is for me, a sign I'm getting on with my day and leaving my place of rest clean and ready for my return. It's that Girl Guide part of me too (and the ingrained training of living with a nursing sister) that is about looking after what you have. Guide Law Nine: A Guide takes care of her possessions and those of other people. Oh dear. If it's any consolation for the readers of my response. The kids throw their doonas over whatever is in and on the bed - I straighten them. They have said though, after visiting other friends houses that they like coming home to their made, clean beds. A small victory.

[Sonya]

In my house it seems like my children rarely even sleep in their beds. I do like the look of a made bed and long ago went Scandinavian, dispensing with the flat sheet in favor of duvet covers, but the beds still don't make themselves!

[Anna]

My mum never made us make it when we were kids either and it's definitely something I've never learned to do religiously... I make our bed probably about half of the time now, and I'm sure once we have kids making the bed is going to be a new sheets and special occasion type of thing. Sometimes they look so comfy and inviting with the sheets and blankets all messed up.

[Bianca]

I have to show this post to my mum..the biggest neat freak in the world ;) I guess that's why I never make my bed, apart from when I have guests over or when I feel like making it look pretty (after a good wash)

Thanks so much for this post!

[Jo]

I am glad that you didn't delete this post - it's this sort of stuff that compells me to read other peoples blogs... the real stuff, the stuff that I can compare to my life and feel a little more 'normal', or a little less isolated as a stay-at-home-mum.

Of course it's nice to see the art and creations, and to be inspired and entertained, but mostly it's really nice to be able to share and be supported by a community of talented and creative women.

So feel free to post the normal stuff, you'll be glad that you kept your blog 'real' and balanced.

Jo x

[tess1960]

It is the simple everyday things of life that make it all worth living. That is sort of a quote from a poem written by Grace Haines. If you do or don't make the bed is just fine. Many others do and many others don't. My hubby likes the bed made, I really could care less. So now, since I am the last one up I spread the sheets and blanket all out over the top of me and then slide out the side. There the bed is made and he says "it'll do". As long as the mattress, sheets and blanket are "on" the bed that's what matters to me. (My granddaughter is famous for removing the mattress to the floor.)
I love reading about your family life, as an empty nester now, it seems to help me in that aspect.
Now please leave that delete button alone.
Blessed Be,
Tess

[Ali]

Oh Lordy, don't delete! I never make mine either - well very seldom the kids' and our duvet gets the most cursory of flips. Sometimes.

I don't know why I don't bother - I'd like to say it was because the kids rumple it, but I wasn't a big bed-maker before they arrived. My mother has always been appalled.

In fact, now I come to think of it, I make an effort to make the beds when she's staying, because I know it drives her crazy to see them messy.

[Donna]

I make mine everyday because I detest sleeping in rumpled, untucked sheets. The girls don't have to make theirs, but if I do a quick tidy in their rooms I usually at least straighten the covers.

[Ann]

I like your "mundane" comments. Your thoughts about balancing work and family (and being honest about the ups and downs of each one) have encouraged me so much in the last year.

[Ellen]

Shhh! No, we don't, but there is a sense of calmness to the room when I go to the 'trouble' to make it - especially when the rest of the room looks like a bomb exploded in there!