I enjoy a good party. i appreciate the small details that people have thought about. The flowers, the decorations, the lighting, the music, the way food is presented. It all helps to create a mood and to make guests feel comfortable. I don't like overly presented and organised parties with games and themes.
This is where I struggle.
So I have found that hosting parties for my kids to be more challenging as they get older.
Kids love themes.
Kids love over the top, in your face colours and C R A P!
No matter how simple and stylish you try to make things, it really doesn't pay off.
Kids love running around your freshly mowed lawn, screaming at each other, screaming at the balloons, screaming at the idea that tetra pack juice is presented to them, screaming for more food, screaming at fun games. They just seem to scream, laugh, run and scream some more!!!!
Meanwhile, mum's and dads seem to stand back and watch in horror as children scream, laugh, run and scream some more.
I feed them champagne to dull the pain.
One and a half hours of screaming and 15 cupcakes later, the screaming stops. Party bags are dispensed, thank yous and farewells are given, and then..... mummy gets to drink her champagne.
So why did I bother?
Well, the options are limited for this age group.
a) party at home, as above.
b) party in park with fall back position at home if it rains.
c) party at a well known takeaway restaurant where the food is bad and children turn into monsters.
d) party at an activity centre where the food is bad and the children turn into monsters.
Where oh where is there somewhere in my town that offers parties where children can run and climb indoors or outdoors; themes can be presented without an ugly Disney or cartoon character on every plate or cup; catering doesn't involve the usual fan fair of reheated frozen foods or deep fried junk, children play old fashion games with a modern twist and smaller siblings aren't trampled on by older kids?
Perhaps a setting that is homely like an old Queenslander, with shady trees, quaint gardens, and a bar for mummy and daddy to sit whilst the children are supervised. Am I asking too much?
I think 5 to 8 is going to be tricky. Next year I have declared that there will no parties. We'll go somewhere fun as a family. Hey, I might even try camping by a river!!!! Anything to avoid the screaming.